I’m Not Judging You

Are you afraid that other people are judging you? Do you try to hide your food choices or the fact that you haven’t been working out as much as you’d like?

I totally get you. I’ve been there! I want people to look up to me but to be honest I’m human. I make choices that I’m not always proud of. I skip workouts and I eat junk food. But you know what, that just makes me real instead of the fake people you see on social.

It’s a common myth that people in the fitness world are judging every one else’s choices. And I get you may have experienced that with other fitness professionals. I have also struggled with fitness professionals making negative comments about my choices too. Never a fun thing because “they always know what’s best for you”. But they don’t know what’s going on. They don’t know your day to day life. So I want you to know once and for all, I’m not judging you.

I had a brief encounter the other day when I was passing someone in the hall. He was holding what some would say was an off limits item if you want to be fit. And his gut reaction was to tell me “Don’t judge me” with a guilty grin while going back to his desk. I immediately responded, “No judgement. At all”. I don’t know what he is going through and I don’t know what you are going through. We are all on our different journeys just trying to do better than yesterday or just trying to get through a hard season. I get it. I consume things that aren’t the healthiest for me and don’t fuel my body the most efficient way.

I have my vices and so do you.

Thanks Bro for my awesome gift!  I love it!

So let’s put down the ruler and stop measuring ourselves to others expectations of us. We don’t know how we got the ruler in the first place but we can put it down and choose not to use it. Let’s just focus on ourselves. That’s all we have control over anyways!!! And our mamas told us when we were growing up to mind our OWN business. Let’s take that heart, shall we?

So the next time you see someone and start thinking, they shouldn’t do that, or you catch yourself thinking you’re better than another person, here’s your and my reminder:

    We have no idea what they are going through.
    We have no idea what is going on.
    We are not perfect and neither are they. And that in itself is wonderful!

So give people grace today and everyday. Encourage those around you and refuse to look down on them. Our world will be such a better place if we did this. So start with yourself!

5 thoughts on “I’m Not Judging You

  1. Great message Bridget. I know I need to exercise. The Drs always tell me this but I have enough health issues that it is hard to do that. I joined a gym in 2010 and tore my rotator cuff and had to have shoulder surgery just from using the equipment the wrong way. Even my physical therapists (I have one I go to after every surgery) would not recommend a personal trainer because he said most do not realize how to handle the elderly. So no, one can not judge what appears to be a person who is not in good condition. I applaud you that you know the value of good conditioning at your young age. Keep it up throughout your life and you will have a good life into later years. I enjoyed reading your article. Thank you.

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    1. Thank you for commenting! I never know if any of this resonates with people or not. I just write from my heart and hope it helps someone.
      I am so sorry about your injury and what you have had to go through. And you are right. We have no idea what a person is going through just by looking at people. I’m not sure if people know I went to a physical therapist after the birth of my child because of issues no one talks about.
      I appreciate you talking out about your journey. It takes courage to speak out about something personal that has happened to you. And on the other hand, when we realize we don’t know everything that evens the playing field for everyone to be valued and heard!
      Thank you and take care!!


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